Book Review - Life Is What You Make It

"..I do not think anyone will fully comprehend what exactly happened to me unless they have themselves gone through what I have." - Life is What You Make It

Life is what you make it by Preeti Shenoy is the book I recently read. She is a fantastic writer and a talented artist. My timing of reading this book, couldn't have been more perfect. This book is mind blowing and so very honest. I could have finished it in one sitting, but because of given circumstances, I wanted to take "time" to read it. I didn't want to hurry. If you read this book, I am sure you'll give up your sleep and finish it. The characters, the story, they all seemed so real.

Although the story in the book is different from current circumstances, but the feelings are almost the same. My dear grandfather, is going through a lot. I started to read this book before anything happened. Came 21st of February 2012, and his life had changed. Everything for him, for our family changed. It all started with a brain stroke, leading up to a blood clot, which took his memory of places and affected his emotions. As it is said, brain's illness or problems are the hardest to describe and treat. Yet his seemed like a problem, that was treatable. So the medicines and treatments began for the next couple of weeks. We went through his changes with him, from low to lower. Even the first two treatments didn't heal him. After further inspection, at another hospital, it was found that he had excess fluid in his brain, causing further damage. Which was also treatable, provided he responds well to it. The treatment is over, there was no noticeable or immediate improvements, but he is back to Low from Lower. He is home, on medicines and being looked after by everyone. As per doctors, sometimes the improvement can be seen even after few weeks or even months of this treatment. (We really hope, for his sake, that he gets better). Today is when I finally finished the book, I never take this long to finish a book. But I wanted for this book to never end and just go on. Everything being said, wether it was an art of fiction or any real life experience, it was honest and real.

You can never imagine the unspoken pain and emotions the person is going through. They are unable to express or may be scared to, but that doesn't take away the fact that they are going through a lot more than you think they are. I quote from the book, "..I do not think anyone will fully comprehend what exactly happened to me unless they have themselves gone through what I have." So very true. I purposely left these last few chapters for now.

Another point well noted in this book was, how people perceive such a problem. They try to get him to be normal, to get back into his routine. At this point he needs love, affection, care, and lot of support and personal space to deal with all this and overcome the problem. He needs family and friends. He doesn't need pity or formal visits, unless you really mean it. I quote again, "There is a very thin line between sanity and insanity." You can not decide if the person is normal or not. Even a person like you and me, can be termed as insane. So think hard before calling someone lunatic or mental. You will only end up showing yourself as a fool.

Life could change in a blink of an eye. Celebrate it. All this was nothing but a reality check. This post was hard for me to write. But I needed to write and take it off of my drafts. I wanted everyone to know, that don't make it harder on the person suffering, don't call him names, don't judge his problem as "mental illness". It could have been you. It could have been anyone. Problems won't take your permission and family will never take your insults. :) You didn't have to know what was going on with him. I will still not reveal what really has happened to him (the problem described in this book, is not what my grand father has). But it's not fair. I pray that if it does happen to anyone, that they have their family friends loved ones with them for the love, affection, care and support they need to heal and get better.

I don't want to rate this book and degrade the importance of it in my life. Preeti Shenoy is an excellent writer and makes me proud that we have such great writers amongst us. 

Love & Peace


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